It’s easier said than done, believe me. But it is something we all must face at some point in our life. It may be a person, a thought, a belief, a memory, a regret, etc., that you have to let go and move on.
I was recently talking about this with my therapist and was also talking about it with my friend, as well. Take note, this is just what I have learned in my experiences, and I am not a professional. For all I know, what I am writing may not resonate with you, so you may let go of this post if you would like.
Back to letting go, I am not saying forget about it or them, or whatever you could be thinking about that would apply to this situation. You MUST acknowledge it before anything can happen. This is how I begin to acknowledge:
Think about what has been recently weighing you down, putting you out, or putting you in a negative headspace.
Acknowledge that is what you need to let go of.
Accept the feelings you are having about whatever you decide to let go of.
Although it may hurt, reflect on why you need to let go of it.
This process is so difficult for any situation, but it is crucial. You can’t stuff down the feelings, and expect it to be forgotten. It will forever be in your subconscious if you do that, in my opinion.
After acknowledging, here are a few things I tend to do to begin the healing process and letting go process:
Journal about it. Get it all out on paper and you’ll be surprised by some of the things you write down.
Write down or think about the lesson you learned from this person or thing you are letting go of. Everything happens for a reason, so although you may be hurting, you are growing from this.
Take time to yourself: meditate, practice self- care, workout, etc. Whatever you need to do to truly put yourself first in the situation, instead of putting yourself down about this regret or the experience you had with what you are letting go.
Don’t get me wrong, this letting go process is a LONG one and requires patience. I am still healing from so many things in my life and will continue to for the rest of my life, but at least I am growing throughout the process.
For example, I had a dream the other day that had brought up two people in my life that had left my space, and for good reason. At times I still think about these people, but after having the dream, I acknowledged they were there, and let go of the dream. Because it was just a dream. Yes, it reminded me of them and had made me sad. So I allowed myself to be sad, but then I recognized why they had left my space and felt better about who I was without them.
Moving on is the best part because you get to see how much better of a person you are without the negativity and have more positive experiences with the new person I have become.
I hope you choose to positively acknowledge, let go, and move on from negativity in your life that isn’t serving you. Happy Monday! Thank you for listening.